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MIRUGAM · Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 5:33 pm Post subject: Willing to marry a divorcee?

i wonder how Indian community preceive a divorcee.

Would a man or a girl consider marrying a divorcee without any qualms?

Let's discuss here. Smile

suja@15 · Junior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 66

It all boils down to one's mentality. We r living in an advanced world where anything goes..... though culture is evident in each individual yet one's perception about life in general is changing. One man's meat is another man's poison. If two hearts come together and like one another then why not? It's all about giving each other the shealter and company much needed. But then of course such situation happens to seasoned ppl. If u were to ask such a question to a young adult then the answer wud b a definite no as they believe everything has to b new and fresh. However if the same question were to b thrown to a much aged person then the answer might vary. It all depends on the individual actually coz marrying a divorcee comes with its access baggage..... if u r willing to carry the burden with tat person then by all means go ahead!.... why not?

MIRUGAM · Posted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 9:42 am Post subject:

thanks miss suja.

I wonder if there is any soceity available for divorcees to get together and mingle. Its crucial because being a divorcee is very depressing. so sharing would lessen the burden.

suja@15 · Junior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 66

i am sure its equally tough for both divorcees... whether it's the man or the woman. And i am sure mr. mirugam tat the heart feels lighter when problems r shared. Too many expectations r forced upon divorcees to do their duties as responsible parents to their growing children especially when one had kids. But then mr. mirugam to lessen one's sadness u don't need a divorcee club ..... a good fren will do..... though the fren might not understand at least the fren will b supportive.....

MIRUGAM · Posted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject:

currently, it is a difficult task to get a good understanding friend. Friendship is being established based on the benefit someone can gain from each other. Confused

I seriously think that a divorcee club would benefit the lonely souls out there.

suja@15 · Junior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 66

maybe u r rite mr. mirugam...... only one wounded soul will understand another wounded soul.....

carnby31 · Newbie Joined: 28 Mar 2008 Posts: 9

yep..im willing...why not? should there be a reason not to?

MIRUGAM · Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2008 8:01 am Post subject:

wow...you're very noble yaar.

Its very rare for an Indian man to come forward and marry a divorcee.Its very common among Malays but not Indians.

carnby31 · Newbie Joined: 28 Mar 2008 Posts: 9

Time for people to change their concepts.The world is changing...so must we...

MIRUGAM · Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2008 2:27 pm Post subject:

yeap...you're rite...hope many others have this attitude.

hats off for you.

I have a friend who fall in love with a beautiful divorcee with a child. Everything went on well till his parents objected. They refuse to let him marry the girl. Feeling dejected, the girl backed off and moved away from our place.

Thats why i opened this thread.

Wonder why Indians are behaving so cruelly?

carnby31 · Newbie Joined: 28 Mar 2008 Posts: 9

Indians have atitude problem. That is their main no 1 problem. Pity the girl.

MIRUGAM · Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 7:43 am Post subject:

yeap. i felt so.

Indian should give priority to genuine happiness and stop living for others.

carnby31 · Newbie Joined: 28 Mar 2008 Posts: 9

Indian Father & Mother : (thiking) we know he is playboy...but he has BMW and 4 houses and is a manager...who cares if he sleeps around or cheats my daughter...$$$$$$$$

MIRUGAM · Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 3:15 pm Post subject:

maybe they think money can buy happiness too.

From my experience, money does not guarantee happiness at all.

VJeyaa · Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 6:30 pm Post subject:

Who says money cant buy you happiness?
Money can definitely buy you happiness and lots of it....

when you use it for others. Wink

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