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suja@15 · Junior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 66

a typical scenario..... a woman chats up a man in a chatroom. Both exchange greetings and the basic info. After a normal decent conversation..... when the man finds the woman to b appealing he decides to b more friendly. Then comes the dirty talk (i hope ya all know wat i mean by tat). My question is why is dis happening?! Can't a man have a decent conversation with a woman he has never met before?... unless of course if the woman initiates the dirty talk as well. Why men can't b gentlemen in chatrooms?

VJeyaa · Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 1:39 pm Post subject:

Chatroom experience eh suja? Very Happy

I doubt if tht is the typical behavoiur of men in general, coz VJeyaa doesnt do that. But then again VJeyaa is married and settled down and doesnt need someone else to handle hormonal rages as they are quiet taken care of. Cool

But for those who are unattached and doesnt yet know how to rein in their hormones, dirty talk could be seen as a prelude for more serious stuffs, if you know what I mean. Maybe he is trying to get lucky. If the girl talks back then that a signal that things will move beyond words, if you know what I mean. But its wrong to generalize to say ALL men are like that. They are not.

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blackmafia · Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:41 pm Post subject:

MIRUGAM · Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 8:20 am Post subject:

hey suja, there are some men out there prowling looking for some fun, meanwhile there are also some who are decent enough to respect the women chatters.

Anyway, just be carefull when engaging any communication with those in chatroom.Some might be serial killers or rapists. Twisted Evil

Bruce Lee · Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:39 pm Post subject:

suja.....in a chatroom out of 20 ppl mayb 1 or 2 guys could b genuine & the rest....well they may b in for sum fun or past time....mostly college students and those in their twenties......in an anonymous situation where u hv no idea of the face behind tht nick the guys wil always "cuba nasib"....who don't want free lunch??? ppl go into chatrooms to interact wt other chatters and the kind of conversation depends on the specific intention of the particular chatter.....

.......so bottomline is reject the chatter the moment the conversation takes a twist for sumthng u dont want......

.....the 'gentlemen' women expect may nt b around in a chatroom.....they may b around the women in many places....workplaces/neighbourhood/place of worship/shops but the women re not able to identify them.......cos the external is visible & the internal invisible.......so they go to chatroom where the external is invisible & the internal is visible !!!!!!!!! Laughing

blackmafia · Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:22 pm Post subject:

hi bruce,

agree with u Cool

rishi · Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 620

its a waste of time
most of the time

carnby31 · Newbie Joined: 28 Mar 2008 Posts: 9

I dun think only guys do that..evem gals do that nowadays....sex chat....phone sex....wat a world man....

tgopal · Junior Member Joined: 17 Mar 2008 Posts: 40

The real gentlemen do not get responses from ladies as well, especially when we openly declare that we are in the late 30's and happily married. So, normally, we don't chat too often

skmachi · Newbie Joined: 24 Mar 2008 Posts: 11

If we have to show ourself of being gentleman just by talking nicely in the chat channel, then i expect 99% of the guys are not gentleman.

It can be of few things:

1. Where you're chatting - If you're chatting in a place where all the sex maniacs comes together, then definitely you're not in the right place.

2. Who you're chatting with - If you're chatting with a guy who is trying to hint something else, then better pack your bags and get out of there

3. How you're chatting - How do you respond to the dirty talks, do you ignore or do you response?

And many more. This is just a fine case of because of one person everyone's got a bad name.

Nanggelam pakka gentleman pa. En misaiyeh parrengeh. Very Happy

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Kon_Roy · Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 9:48 pm Post subject:

suja@15 · Junior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 66

u guys do have a point or 2 there.... something like a wolf in sheep's skin. But does chatting behind the screen allows someone to b wat he desires deep inside instead of being himself? It's something like two sides of a coin.....

Kon_Roy · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 2:02 pm Post subject:

MIRUGAM · Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 7:52 am Post subject:

yeap....everyone has some "mirugam-ness" deep in us. We have the potential to change according to the demand of the situation.

No one can stay assured that they are mild, kind and soft person, deep down there, we might me a different person. Wink

A self proclaimed gentleman might change according to the situation at that time.

aNYWAY, if the girl is uncomfortable she can always back off.

rishi · Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 620

sometimes girls kacau guys too...
teasing for fun.
the same way, some guys do it too.

its not wrong to hint and try your luck.
but once you are told 'not interested', gently back off.

this applies to both guys n gals.