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VJeyaa · Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 2:24 pm Post subject:

Mirg,

The topic is not about couple having seperated for long time. We are talking about married couples who are living together and yet are driven to this situation.

You were comparing between the seriousness of sexual involvement and emotional involvement with an outsider to the marriage and you had indicated that the emotional one is more serious. I disagreed on this point as I am saying that if the woman is already having sex, it is a stage that is BEYOND mere emotional involvement. In other words, you are saying the emotional is more serious, I am saying the sexual liasion as being more serious.
This is what I had understood from your postings. Unless you had a change of mind recently.
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MIRUGAM · Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 2:49 pm Post subject:

You wrongly understood me, i mean having affair and then emotionally involved with the person is serious.

Yeah...you are right.Both rishi and i diverted to long distance relationship....my points wouldn't be appicable for couples staying together. Those staying together can always talk and overcome the short comings.

VJeyaa · Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:17 pm Post subject:

Then you should come back to the correct situation being discussed. Your hypothetical assumption of long distance relationship situation is causing unnecessary confusion to the topic and making the discussion counterproductive. Rolling Eyes

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MIRUGAM · Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:22 pm Post subject:

I thought i did just that in earlier post.

rishi · Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 620

hmm........ Rolling Eyes

MIRUGAM · Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject:

well....rishi...why are confused now? Wink

rishi · Senior Member Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 620

LoveSeeker · Junior Member Joined: 15 May 2008 Posts: 56

this resembles something like the film "Uyir"..wer thesister in law is emotionally attracted to srikanth thus killed her own husband....why?.....cos she wasnot satisfied.......

i have an example....i had a fren once...got married after courting about a year....the period of exploration lasted not more than a month....wen the girl confronted to the husband that she was not satisfied and she is afraid that it lead to separation....the husband was confused...cant figure how to satisfy the wife...he was depressed until he met a fren...who isvery active in sex matters....the guy actually thought him how to satisfy gals onbed....easiest way is to become brutal....low density......now thewife felt more satisfied......but the husband still confused wen the wife claimed that he was not really good in sex.....how to define "good and bad on bad".....husband decided to stay off her....they got divorced.....now the wife is married to a much younger guy...an oversea return hunk.....now she claims that her sex life is more beautiful that they willmakelove almost everyday....

the question here is....
wat was lacking in her former husband....?
wat is a satisfactory love.....?
howa women can be satisfied...?
wat do they expect from a husband.....?

VJeyaa · Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 10:28 am Post subject:

Hahaha... loveseeker, brutal is not really the answer also. I suspect that the guy was unable to get her to orgasm each time they made love. Whether brutal or gentle, if the result is not acheived, i guess it leaves a very unsatisfied partner in bed. I guess its about turning the attention from getting pleasure to giving pleasure as the goal. Its about selfless giving. Then the result is acheived much easier.

But anyway, we are already digressing from the topic. We are talking about the art of pleasuring. We are supposed to be discussing what sustains a marriage more, is it love or sex? Wink

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VJeyaa · Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 10:33 am Post subject:

NOTE: Children below 18 years of AGE please stay away from this topic ya?

Rishi - read this note and comply OK?
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baby_witch · Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:01 pm Post subject:

Are you telling me that the woman will be foreva changing partners until she is satisfied with one particular person? Wat if she doesnt get the satisfaction she wants at all? Will she be keep exploring? Can one live without sex in marriage? Is the desire stronger than the love for her husband? If the answer is yes. Damn it! Better die than living!!!

I believe that "A good Wife SHould love her husband regardless of what he is". She must be able to control her feelings and temptations.. Love is beyond everything in this universe!!! I still stand as SEX is just an act of LOVE... ?
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baby_witch · Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:04 pm Post subject:

LoveSeeker · Junior Member Joined: 15 May 2008 Posts: 56

i agree with u......baby....sex is the act of love.....

VJeyaa · Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:24 pm Post subject: