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VJeyaa Senior Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 2:24 pm Post subject: |
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Mirg,
The topic is not about couple having seperated for long time. We are talking about married couples who are living together and yet are driven to this situation.
You were comparing between the seriousness of sexual involvement and emotional involvement with an outsider to the marriage and you had indicated that the emotional one is more serious. I disagreed on this point as I am saying that if the woman is already having sex, it is a stage that is BEYOND mere emotional involvement. In other words, you are saying the emotional is more serious, I am saying the sexual liasion as being more serious.
This is what I had understood from your postings. Unless you had a change of mind recently. _________________ Before you criticize someone, make sure you walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize, you're a mile away and you HAVE THEIR SHOES. |
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MIRUGAM Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 2:49 pm Post subject: |
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You wrongly understood me, i mean having affair and then emotionally involved with the person is serious.
Yeah...you are right.Both rishi and i diverted to long distance relationship....my points wouldn't be appicable for couples staying together. Those staying together can always talk and overcome the short comings. |
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VJeyaa Senior Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:17 pm Post subject: |
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Then you should come back to the correct situation being discussed. Your hypothetical assumption of long distance relationship situation is causing unnecessary confusion to the topic and making the discussion counterproductive. _________________ Before you criticize someone, make sure you walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize, you're a mile away and you HAVE THEIR SHOES. |
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MIRUGAM Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:22 pm Post subject: |
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I thought i did just that in earlier post.
Quote: | Yeah...you are right.Both rishi and i diverted to long distance relationship....my points wouldn't be appicable for couples staying together. Those staying together can always talk and overcome the short comings.
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rishi Senior Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:27 pm Post subject: |
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hmm........ |
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MIRUGAM Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject: |
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well....rishi...why are confused now? |
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rishi Senior Member
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:35 pm Post subject: Re: Which sustains a relationship more? Love or Sex? |
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VJeyaa wrote: | This one is about the sustaining of a marital relationship. Everyone knows that sex is important in a married relationship? Question is how important is it really?
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I thought its about married couples.
Didnt know that its only about couples who are staying together.
Anyway, sorry
VJeyaa wrote: | The topic is not about couple having seperated for long time. We are talking about married couples who are living together and yet are driven to this situation |
This includes married ppl who live together but can't have sex due to certain health conditions right
Pls correct me in case there is any misunderstanding |
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LoveSeeker Junior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 10:15 am Post subject: |
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this resembles something like the film "Uyir"..wer thesister in law is emotionally attracted to srikanth thus killed her own husband....why?.....cos she wasnot satisfied.......
i have an example....i had a fren once...got married after courting about a year....the period of exploration lasted not more than a month....wen the girl confronted to the husband that she was not satisfied and she is afraid that it lead to separation....the husband was confused...cant figure how to satisfy the wife...he was depressed until he met a fren...who isvery active in sex matters....the guy actually thought him how to satisfy gals onbed....easiest way is to become brutal....low density......now thewife felt more satisfied......but the husband still confused wen the wife claimed that he was not really good in sex.....how to define "good and bad on bad".....husband decided to stay off her....they got divorced.....now the wife is married to a much younger guy...an oversea return hunk.....now she claims that her sex life is more beautiful that they willmakelove almost everyday....
the question here is....
wat was lacking in her former husband....?
wat is a satisfactory love.....?
howa women can be satisfied...?
wat do they expect from a husband.....? |
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VJeyaa Senior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 10:28 am Post subject: |
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Hahaha... loveseeker, brutal is not really the answer also. I suspect that the guy was unable to get her to orgasm each time they made love. Whether brutal or gentle, if the result is not acheived, i guess it leaves a very unsatisfied partner in bed. I guess its about turning the attention from getting pleasure to giving pleasure as the goal. Its about selfless giving. Then the result is acheived much easier.
But anyway, we are already digressing from the topic. We are talking about the art of pleasuring. We are supposed to be discussing what sustains a marriage more, is it love or sex? _________________ Before you criticize someone, make sure you walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize, you're a mile away and you HAVE THEIR SHOES. |
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VJeyaa Senior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 10:33 am Post subject: |
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NOTE: Children below 18 years of AGE please stay away from this topic ya?
Rishi - read this note and comply OK? _________________ Before you criticize someone, make sure you walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize, you're a mile away and you HAVE THEIR SHOES. |
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rishi Senior Member
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baby_witch Junior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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Are you telling me that the woman will be foreva changing partners until she is satisfied with one particular person? Wat if she doesnt get the satisfaction she wants at all? Will she be keep exploring? Can one live without sex in marriage? Is the desire stronger than the love for her husband? If the answer is yes. Damn it! Better die than living!!!
I believe that "A good Wife SHould love her husband regardless of what he is". She must be able to control her feelings and temptations.. Love is beyond everything in this universe!!! I still stand as SEX is just an act of LOVE... ? _________________ We grow by our dreams.... Keep dreaming... |
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baby_witch Junior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:04 pm Post subject: |
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LoveSeeker wrote: | this resembles something like the film "Uyir"..wer thesister in law is emotionally attracted to srikanth thus killed her own husband....why?.....cos she wasnot satisfied.......
i have an example....i had a fren once...got married after courting about a year....the period of exploration lasted not more than a month....wen the girl confronted to the husband that she was not satisfied and she is afraid that it lead to separation....the husband was confused...cant figure how to satisfy the wife...he was depressed until he met a fren...who isvery active in sex matters....the guy actually thought him how to satisfy gals onbed....easiest way is to become brutal....low density......now thewife felt more satisfied......but the husband still confused wen the wife claimed that he was not really good in sex.....how to define "good and bad on bad".....husband decided to stay off her....they got divorced.....now the wife is married to a much younger guy...an oversea return hunk.....now she claims that her sex life is more beautiful that they willmakelove almost everyday....
the question here is....
wat was lacking in her former husband....?
wat is a satisfactory love.....?
howa women can be satisfied...?
wat do they expect from a husband.....? |
she should have not married on the first place!!! she be sumthing else!!! _________________ We grow by our dreams.... Keep dreaming... |
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LoveSeeker Junior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:16 pm Post subject: |
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i agree with u......baby....sex is the act of love..... |
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VJeyaa Senior Member
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:24 pm Post subject: |
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baby_witch wrote: | Is the desire stronger than the love for her husband? |
This is exactly what this topic is all about. Why do you think some married women are sleeping around with other men? Havent you heard of wives of Datuks going for Gigolos? They are rich and pampered (and loved dearly by their rich and older husbands)
and they have everything in their lives except satisfactory sex lives. Then one fine day they run off with their lovers. Since they are Datuks' wives, their case can be said to be high-profile. But what about the common ones who are sexually frustrated for years and years?
baby_witch wrote: | I believe that "A good Wife SHould love her husband regardless of what he is". She must be able to control her feelings and temptations.. Love is beyond everything in this universe!!! I still stand as SEX is just an act of LOVE... ? |
Well your stand is commendable but sadly, not everyone is subscribing to a stand like this. Otherwise this situation would not arise, would it? But to be honest, cases like this are not really uncommon here or elsewhere. Maybe it is more openly known in the West. _________________ Before you criticize someone, make sure you walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you do criticize, you're a mile away and you HAVE THEIR SHOES. |
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